Why 'Logical' People Struggle With Feelings
A Practical Guide to Feeling Without Losing Your Edge
by Peter Tah
Is this you?
Sound familiar?
You answer “how do you feel?” with an explanation.
You were “being reasonable” and they still left the room upset.
Feelings ambush you at 2 a.m.
You're tired for no clear reason.
You win arguments and end up alone.
The idea
A different way to look at it
You're not broken. You're out of practice.
Your analytical mind is the asset, not the problem.
Feelings are data you've been ignoring.
The method
The N.A.M.E. method
Four steps, in this order.
Notice
Start with the body.
Attach a word
Use the feelings ladder.
Make room
60 seconds, no fixing.
Engage
Decide what to do: last, not first.
From the book
For years, I believed staying calm under pressure meant staying disconnected from how I felt. ...
During the incident, I wasn't calm. I was functioning. That distinction matters. Performance under pressure is valuable. Pretending pressure doesn't affect you is something else entirely.
What you'll get
Inside the book
- Practical scripts for hard conversations
- A 2-minute daily check-in
- A feelings vocabulary
- A chapter on anger, grief and shame
- Guidance on repairing relationships
- The free printable Toolkit
The free Toolkit
The printable companion: feeling words, a body chart, journal prompts and the N.A.M.E. card. No sign-up needed.
Get the ToolkitAbout the author
Peter Tah is a Principal Engineer in Technical Support based in Cork, Ireland. For nearly two decades, he has worked at the intersection of technology and people, helping customers navigate critical outages, complex escalations, and high-pressure technical challenges. Throughout his career, he built a reputation for staying calm, thinking clearly, and solving difficult problems. What he eventually learned, however, was that many of life's most important challenges cannot be solved through analysis alone. This book grew out of that realization.
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Feel without losing your edge
Why 'Logical' People Struggle With Feelings, by Peter Tah. Kindle ebook.